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Kim is awesome.  Just want to tell you how grateful and blessed I am to have stumbled across her group and life coaching.  It's like the female version of hitch.  I thank her for helping me transform my life.

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I have had more ah-ha moments with Kim than I have had my entire life.  Her coaching has been a life-saver, not only in dating, but in life.  Even my business decisions are stronger and catapulting my earning potential.

Chris, Ilinois

Before I enrolled in Kim's Unleash Your SuperHero program, I was beyond feeling defeated.   I didn't feel confident in dating or relationship.  Her program did more for me than 20 years of counseling. 



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The first sentence in the book The Road Less Traveled, blew my mind.  It was a moment.  One of those moments one doesn't ever forget, because something in me shifted.  A shift I had needed and craved for as long as I had known myself.

"Life is difficult."

I actually started to breathe a sigh of relief.


My pain was instantly acknowledged in that moment.  I was not alone...there were other people that found life difficult. Amazed at the prospect that I might not be the only person feeling imprisoned by poor choices and self-defeating thoughts, just maybe I could release a little self-judgement.  Maybe I could inch toward compassion for myself.   


The statement alleviated, however slight, my guilt for having been raised to love Jesus but for being so miserable and desperate in life and love anyway.  I was suppose to be THE LIGHT OF THE WORLD, and yet darkness was my shroud.  


I remembered Jesus words:  "Enter through the narrow gate.  For wide is the gate and broad the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.  But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it."  Matt 7:13-14  

According to the Bible, I was supposedly on the narrow road with my salvation secure.  But Divorce, Heartache, and Addiction sounded and felt like destruction to me, and I had been there for years.  


 Somehow, "Life is difficult" felt like the first step to opening the gate toward life.  


As my journey continued, I stumbled upon this Buddhist teaching:  "Life has pain, but you do not have to suffer."



Life has pain - an acknowledgment of what felt like was my entire existence, even though I was a child of God.


But here was the kicker:  I have a choice.  Suffering is a choice.  

I contemplated the mountain of repercussions in such a statement.  A rush of everything I had been learning began to coalesce together.  


Wow...I really do have a choice.. 


How profound.

But isn't that what James was alluding to in James 1:2? "Consider it pure joy my brothers and sisters when you face trials of many kinds for you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance, and perseverance must finish its work to make you whole and complete, not lacking anything."


The practice of seeing life through a different lens, seeing trials as joy, seeing suffering as a choice was the truth hitting me hard in the face and it was about to set me free. 

Life is difficult.

Life has pain but I do not have to suffer.

Trials produce perseverance, which then makes me whole and complete, not lacking anything.

I needed spiritual guidance to continue this quest for wisdom and to heal and Coaching was the tool to wake me up and empower me to step into the fullness of who I am, thus unleashing the life, love and purpose intended for me .   Now, I have the honor of offering that same gift to you.

I am Kim O, a recovered OverGiver, a recovered Hopeless Romantic, a recovered Xanax Addict, a recovered Self-Doubter, a recovered disempowered Dater and Relationshipper, a recovered Religious Dogamatist….to one powerful, embracing her purpose, Authentic Self, Soul, Partner, Coach and founder of 

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Everyone is Welcome!

If you have been hurt/disappointed/angered by religion or religious dogmatists as I have been, I invite you to believe that you are safe and can experience with me the real intended purpose of religion:



Humans throughout history have messed up this message. I hope to enlighten you to find LOVE again and not be afraid to be reacquainted with the unconditional love, unconditional acceptance, and unconditional forgiveness teachings of Christ, Buddha, Lao Tzu and many others. 

Everyone is welcome - whatever gender or sexual orientation you are, you are beautiful and loved. Everyone will receive transforming wisdom that they can utilize in their lives and relationships.

I embrace many different terms to describe the Divine. Feel free to insert what feels most loving to you.

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.  Proverbs 27:17

My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.  Dali Lama

You are the light of the world...let your light shine before others...  Jesus  Matthew 5:14,16

The eye is the lamp of the body.  If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light.  

But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness.  Jesus, Matthew 6:22

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.  Dali Lama

Do not judge...Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your neighbors eye

and pay no attention to the plank in your own.  Jesus,  Matthew 7:1,3

If you do not change direction, you may end up going where you are headed.  Lao Tzu

Love one another.   Jesus. John 13:35

Love your enemies.  Jesus, Matthew 5:43

Pain is unavoidable but suffering is optional.   Jack Kornfield (Buddhism for Beginners)

Be kind whenever possible.  It is always possible.  Dali Lama

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.  Dali Lama

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