No personality type is your perfect match,

and no one is perfect.

Each type has AWESOME traits,

and each type has ANNOYING, icky ones.

Conflict & struggle arise from:

-unrealistic expectations in our dates and mates,

-not taking the opportunities to help each other embrace our personality strengths and balance our weaknesses

Knowing the types of me and my mate and using the communication techniques taught in the courses, has created massive understanding and alleviated conflict in our relationship.


It is a relationship saver, sustainer, and sexifier!  

The personality information in this tab is based upon the Meyers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) information, the website, and my own experience and knowledge.  

Stumbling upon a description of my personality type as an INFP was one of the most pivotal, affirming moments of my life.  

I am an INFP.  We comprise only 2% of society. The rarer personality types are often misunderstood and the people themselves with these types struggle loving and accepting themselves because most of society doesn't think, feel, and perceive like we do.  We feel as if no one understands us, and we most likely don't understand ourselves.   


Learning our type is not meant to pigeon hole us, but rather to help us understand ourselves better, to embrace our strengthens and to be aware of and balance our weaknesses.  


When we understand our type and the type of those we love, we can support and encourage one another rather than make each other wrong. 

I felt different my whole life.  I felt rejected and lonely.  I sought approval from others because I had no grounding in myself, thus I not only didn't approve of myself, I thought I was wrong or defective.  Growing up on a farm, I had to hide my sensitivities and feelings.  Psychology wasn't as prevalent or accessible in my childhood.  We had a farm to run, that is what mattered, not my personality or feelings.

Because of the truth of the Law of Attraction, I attracted mates who affirmed how I felt about myself, which was not good.  One of my former mates was a very strong ESTJ, the exact opposite of me. As a perpetual pursuer of Psychology, one day I stumbled across the Myers Briggs Type Indicator. I read about the 16 personality types and I took the test.


(Take the test at 


Reading my type for the first time was one of the most incredible experiences of my life. I had thought I was weird and wrong.  I had thought I needed to change who I was to be accepted.  I learned about my amazing strengths and could definitely see my weaknesses too, but I was super empowered to be the best me I could be.  My former mate had been telling me to just change.  He did not see any value in anything other than what was black and white or logical. As an INFP, that perspective completely shuts down our main way of taking in and interpreting information.  

After I learned how to embrace me fully, I could also embrace others.  Then I learned how to create healthy communication, compromise, and conflict resolution skills that honored our personalities.

Let's celebrate our uniquenesses, stop making each other wrong,

and help each other be better.

Step 1 Know your type

Step 2 Learn HOW to accept each other's differences, facilitate healthy communication, compromise, and conflict resolution.   

We teach you HOW.

These HeartWorkUniversity Courses plant you strongly in your personality and give you the tools to understand yourself and your dates and mates; especially in conflict, compatibility & compromise:


Unleash Your Confident Authenticity - shed the shoulds, release past messages (you will take the MBTI personality test)

How to be Valued and Value Others - Learn Your Valuable Verbs

Compatibility & Compromise Requirements: Learn What is Certain & Negotiable & How to Express Yourself Confidently

The Strengths & Weaknesses of each type (according to

INTJ - The Architect


-quick,imaginative,and strategic mind

-high self-confidence

-independent and decisive

-hard-working and determined


--jacks of all trades




-overly analytical

-loathe highly structured environments

INFJ - The Advocate




-inspiring and convincing


-determined and passionate



-extremely private


-always need to have a cause

-can burn out easily


ENTJ - The Commander






-strategic thinkers

-charismatic and inspiring


-stubborn and dominant




-poor handling of emotions

-cold and ruthless

ENTP - The Debater



-quick thinkers


-excellent brainstormers




-very argumentative



-can find it difficult to focus

-dislike practical matters

INFP - The Mediator

ENFJ - The Protagonist



-seek and value harmony

-open-minded and flexible

-very creative

-passionate and energetic

-dedicated and hard-working


-too idealistic

-too altruistic


-dislike dealing with data

-take things personally

-difficult to get to know







-natural leaders


-overly idealistic

-too selfless

-too sensitive

-fluctuating self-esteem

-struggle to make tough decisions

INTP - The Logician


-great analysts and

abstract thinkers

-imaginative and original




-honest and straightforward



-very private and withdrawn




-loathe rules and guidelines

-second-guess themselves


ENFP - The Campaigner




-energetic and enthusiastic

-excellent communicators

-know how to relax

-very popular and friendly


-poor practical skills

-find it difficult to focus

-overthink things

-get stressed easily

-highly emotional

-independent to a fault

ISTJ - The Logistician

ISFJ - The Defender


-honest and direct

-strong-willed and dutiful

-very responsible

-calm and practical

-create and enforce order

-jacks of all trades




-always by the book


-often unreasonably blame themselves



-reliable and patient

-imaginative and observant


-loyal and hard-working

-good and practical skills


-humble and shy

-take things too personally

-repress their feelings

-overload themselves

-reluctant to change

-too altruistic

ESTJ - The Executive




-direct and honest

-loyal, patient, and reliable

-enjoy creating order

-excellent organizers


-inflexible and stubborn

-uncomfortable with unconventional situations


-too focused on social status

-difficult to relax

-difficulty expressing emotion

ESFJ - The Consul


-strong practical skills

-strong sense of duty

-very loyal

-sensitive and warm

-good at connecting with others



-worried about their social status


-reluctant to innovate or improvise

-vulnerable to criticism

-often too needy

-too selfless

ISTP - The Virtuoso


-optimistic and energetic

-creative and practical

-spontaneous and rational

-know how to prioritize

-great in a crisis





-private and reserved

-easily bored

-dislike commitment

-risky behavior

ISFP - The Adventurer

ESTP - The Entrepreneur



-sensitive to others






-fiercely independent


-easily stressed

-overly competitive

-fluctuating self-esteem



-rational and practical










-may miss the bigger picture


ESFP - The Entertainer




-aesthetics and showmanship



-excellent people skills




-easily bored

-poor long-term planners


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